atheistcum said: Hi! I've recently become interested in the DD/lg style of relationship, I have a secondary blog to some what advertise myself to a future Daddy! I saw your post on after care, and you mentioned a scenario where a lg would be shaking after wards. I don't think I completely understand the sexual side of a DD/lg relationship and what it involves. I was wondering if you would be able to explain to me what it typically involves!! ☺️☺️ Thank you so much Miss! 💛
Aftercare comes along during subspace and subdrop due to endorphine releases and sometimes even adrenaline. These are brought on by intense play scenes that either involve (rough) sex, impact play, anything involving strong amounts of pain (sadomasocism), etc. Not everyone will experience these just from sex but it’s possible to experience a mild form of it. It’s also important to note that not everyone involved in D/s dynamics have an interest in other aspects of BDSM, so no pressure if you don’t have an interest in any of the things I mentioned above.
Anyways, some signs of subspace:The submissive maybecome less verbal in communication as he/sheenters the more “feral” state of subspace. TheTop may notice that the submissve’s ability to speak and to use words to communicate how he or she feels is reduced, and the submssive may only communicate in grunts or moans (which,let’s face it, are difficult to interpret). There are often changes in skin tone; eyes mayroll back in the head. The body may go limp and floppy (which is at odds with the muscle tensing thatwould generally be expected with physical punishment).It’s akin to feeling high and because of this, the sub/bottom may not be able to make rational or safe decisions.Subdrop, on the otherhand, is the endorphine crash and causes heavy emotions.
Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms.If not cared for, you could go intodepressionjust from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days.For example in terms of sex (since you asked), after rough playtimes with Daddy, I get extremely emotional. It’s not uncommon for me to start crying after cumming multiple times. It’s not that I’m particularly sad either, it’s just at that moment I feel such a strong urge to cry that it needs to be released and I break down. My body also shakes too and sometimes I even get extremely dizzy or go limp.This usually cues Daddy to stop and ask me how I’m feeling. Based on my answer we either pause or stop completely. He’ll ask me to speak my mind because I tend to ramble about my feelings towards Him. Afterwards He’ll kiss me and reassure me that everything’s okay, that he loves me, I’m special, etc.However, in scenes that sex is not involved and pain is involved, sometimes a different approach is needed towards giving aftercare. That’s why you see a lot of physical things mentioned in my aftercare kit post. It really depends on the scene, the intensity, and what the sub needs to ensure their comfort and safety.
So I’m not just a massive girly wuss then. Bonus.